Singles Sermon Notes

“You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”

 

ISAIAH 43:7. NLT

“Bring all who claim me as their God, for I have made them for my glory. It was I who created them.’””

 

EPHESIANS 2:10 NLT

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”

 

GALATIANS 2:20 NLT

“My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”

 

1. You were created solely for God to bring Him glory.

2. Before you were born God wrote out the good things He wanted you to do for Him.

3. Jesus is currently trying to live His life through you.

 

There is nothing wrong with being single. Let’s get rid of the stigma. The first definition of single is “only one”.

 

Genesis 2:23-24 NLT

““At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”

 

Genesis 5:2 KJV

“male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.”

 

Genesis 3:20 KJV

“And Adam called his wife's name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.”

 

MATTHEW 22:30 NLT

“For when the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage. In this respect they will be like the angels in heaven.”

 

I CORINTHIANS 7:6-9 NLT

“I say this as a concession, not as a command. But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another. So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.”

 

I CORINTHIANS 7:17 NLT

“Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the LORD HAS PLACED YOU, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.”

 

I CORINTHIANS 7:25-28 NLT

25. Now regarding your question about the young women who are not yet married. I do not have a command from the Lord for them. But the Lord in his mercy has given me wisdom that can be trusted, and I will share it with you. 26. Because of the present crisis, I think it is best to remain as you are. 27. If you have a wife, do not seek to end the marriage. If you do not have a wife, do not seek to get married. 28. But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am trying to spare you those problems.

 

Even though they can be overcome, many troubles come with being married.

What’s worse is when a single person lives a life of trouble and then brings those troubles into a marriage that will already have its own set of troubles.

 

I CORINTHIANS 7:29-35

29. But let me say this, dear brothers and sisters: The time that remains is very short. So from now on, those with wives should not focus only on their marriage. 30. Those who weep or who rejoice or who buy things should not be absorbed by their weeping or their joy or their possessions. 31. Those who use the things of the world should not become attached to them. For this world as we know it will soon pass away. 32. I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. 35. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.”

 

I CORINTHIANS 7:38-40. NLT

“So the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better. A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but only if he loves the Lord. But in my opinion it would be better for her to stay single, and I think I am giving you counsel from God’s Spirit when I say this.”

 

MATTHEW 19:11-12. NLT

““Not everyone can accept this statement,” Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps. Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.””

 

God is thinking about eternity, when you get there your frustrations are wiped away. No one who enters heaven will wish they could have enjoyed something in earth before they got there.

 

Everyone moves at different speeds and everyone is on different paths.

Some will get married early, some will get married late, and some will not get married at all.

 

Some say the church is keeping ladies single. No, the Lord is sometimes keeping ladies single. Sometimes the single lady is keeping herself single because of her character. Sometimes a generational curse is keeping a person single. Many stay single because they would not make a good spouse.

 

Many people have broken relationships because of trying to force something to be compatible while having sex.

 

Many are looking for a ten while being a two.

 

1. Lord if I am to prepare for marriage, what should I be working on?

2. What are my weak areas that should be strengthened?

3. What am I doing that I should not be doing?

4. What am I not doing that I should be doing?

5. What am I currently doing that I could be doing better?

 

DATING

1. Do not date until you are honestly ready for marriage.

2. No sex or touching of a sexual nature.

3. Talk, ask questions and talk some more.

4. Ask God to quickly open your eyes to see if this is the right person for you.

5. These four things will enable you to come to a quick conclusion if you should move forward in the relationship.

 

JUDGES 14:1-2 NLT

“One day when Samson was in Timnah, one of the Philistine women caught his eye. When he returned home, he told his father and mother, “A young Philistine woman in Timnah caught my eye. I want to marry her. Get her for me.””

 

SIGNS HE MAY BE THE ONE

1. He actively pursues you.

2. He respects you and listens to your point of view.

3. His actions line up with what you desire.

4. He is secure in his faith in God.

5. Your close family and friends approve of him.

6. His friends are mature and respectable men.

7. He is secure in who he is.

 

I SAMUEL 16:18 NLT

“One of the servants said to Saul, “One of Jesse’s sons from Bethlehem is a talented harp player. Not only that—he is a brave warrior, a man of war, and has good judgment. He is also a fine-looking young man, and the Lord is with him.””

 

I PETER 3:3-5 NLT

“Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands.”

 

God is not interested in bringing you a man that you will not submit to.

God is not interested in bringing you a woman that you will treat differently than Jesus would.

It’s very important to remember half steppers get put at the back of the line.

This is the reason why many have found a person for themselves. God did not find the person for them.

Many times you attract what you are.

 

PROVERBS  31:10-12 NLT

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

 

I CORINTHIANS 11:8-9 NLT

“For the first man didn’t come from woman, but the first woman came from man. And man was not made for woman, but woman was made for man.”

 

❤️If a woman is supposed to get married it is generally because God has made you specifically for a certain type of man.

 

PROVERBS 18:22 TPT

“When a man finds a wife, he has found a treasure! For she is the gift of God to bring him joy and pleasure. But the one who divorces a good woman loses what is good from his house. To choose an adulteress is both stupid and ungodly.”

 

Reflection point

The most important decision you will make in your lifetime is repenting of your sins and receiving Jesus Christ as your Savior and King. This decision comes with a book with 1,189 chapters that you are instructed to read and study everyday for life in order to obey and have a proper relationship with the King.

The second most important decision in life is who you marry. Most people rush into marriage without reading one book or studying any information on what it takes to have a good marriage.

 

FIVE NEEDS OF A MAN

1. Physical attractiveness

2.Sexual fulfillment

3. Admiration and honor

4. Recreational Companionship

5. Domestic support

6. Respect is the thread that flows through all five needs

 

FIVE NEEDS OF A WOMAN

1. Honesty and openness

2. Intimate conversation

3. Affection

4. Family commitment

5. Financial support

6. Security is the thread that flows through all five needs.

 

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